We broke up, but we still together

You ever been in a relationship where you guys break up yet you guys keep each other around because you feel that there's a chance that you might get back together? Well I'm writing this to say that in most situations you need to get over it and I'm gonna tell you why.

From the female point of view when she breaks up with a guy it can be over a few reasons but mainly because you see yourself in their life more than they do. With that in the back of your head you also realize the good times you share and the work you put in, with that being said you stay around because you feel attached to this person, and its human nature for females to grow attached to things they put time into. If the guy doesn't want to be with you his actions will dictate that to you, and most likely you need to leave. If you stay around not only do you run the risk of getting hurt, but you lose a friend and all chances of getting with that person. Its a fine line most times however that honestly takes being in the situation to understand and outside forces cant dictate how that will go no matter how you roll it.

Now from the male point of view, when he breaks up with a girl it can usually be summed up into one or a few reasons. A guy can break up with a girl for foolish reasons such as; She cant cook, shes flirtatious, she doesn't care, or you don't see yourself with her in the future. Now i have countless amounts of male friend who would say the latter is the main reason they break up with females, but as you might find there's many reasons why guys keep girls around. For one if the sex is good, that's something you don't want to let go of, we all have are needs and that's one of them. Most of the time a guy feels that he can use a girl's clingy-ness are overbearing emotion to him as an advantage, and in most cases this works. A guy is smarter than he lets on, preying on weakness they can find how to work themselves into a situation where, you guys go from broken up, to still being together as if you guys had a title, overall, however, its most likely a set up for him to find someone new.

In short, both male and female need to look at the red flags that both genders throw up after they break up with each other. The love you thought that was there might not be reciprocated in the fashion you wish or want. Sometimes its best to just drop it, love shouldn't hurt, it should feel pure, genuine, and should be shared. If at anytime there isn't 50/50 participation in love, and hasn't been for a while, it might be time to hang it up, there's someone out there that will love you, trust me...